Before that, Adam Studied Broadcast Journalism and International Relations at Boston University.
Katelynn Cusanelli, who some may remember from MTV's "The Real World: Brooklyn" as the first (and only) openly transgender person in the show's twenty year history, and as an activist and lecturer in the LGBTQ community who has worked to raise awareness regarding HIV & AIDS, participated in an AMA (Ask Me Anything) on Reddit, a user-driven content aggregation site, yesterday afternoon.
Question: How do you feel your experience on the "Real World" has affected your life? What do you think is the biggest thing you've taken from it (literally or otherwise)? Question: "And it has all but ruined my love life..." How come?
Response: I like to think I am "passable" (I loathe that term, and I believe the younger Transwomen call it "trapping" but I'm no fan of that phrase either, as it is entirely pejorative while being flattering at the same time, heh), and when I date I like to let the person get to know me before I come out as transgender.
Cusanelli responded to questions from Redditors on topics such as her opinions on the LGBT community, her favorite video games (she is a self-proclaimed "esteemed geek") and her experiences during and after appearing on the "Real World." Save a few negative commenters, many Redditors seemed appreciative of her taking the time to discuss personal issues so candidly.
As one Redditor put it, "This has been very informative for a straight dude with no transgendered friends." We have collected some highlights from the AMA below.
We are real people and we're having real emotional experiences, and all this is happening around us.
For obvious reasons, dating is not on the forefront of her mind at this time. It’s like I have this really cool show going on, but like – I don’t know. When you’re on the island, you’re secluded to each other and your lives are going through something dramatic and you’re going through it with each other.However, in this day and age you'd be a complete fool not to at least do a cursory Google search of someone you're dating, and thus my dates tend to trudge up very intimate and personal details about me with no context or frame of reference.It just adds additional degrees of entropy which make an already frustrating and difficult process that much more so. Question: If you were / are not a fan, what was the inspiration to audition for the show? I don't really give away my birth name, not because it's a sensitive issue for me, just that I don't want to set any precedence that it's something trans people are willing to disclose.I personally hate reality TV and would never dream of going on to a show like that save for some sneaky, covert, bring-it-down-from-the-inside type job. Response: It wasn't about me or my desires, it was about representing a community that has been heretofore woefully misrepresented if not underrepresented in the media. I'm not suggesting you specifically are doing this but some people do use the birth name as a way of overlaying a gender identity that we don't agree with, almost as if to say, "I know what you really are." As for how I decided upon the name Katelynn, it was rather methodical and geeky, heh. I was born and raised in a traditional Roman Catholic Sicilian household within a Military family. I left home when I was 17 and thankfully over the years have repaired the relationship with my family.Devyn Simone is an internationally renowned dating coach and matchmaker whose expertise has been broadcast in over one hundred seventy countries and translated into forty-five different languages.Her own blog has been touted as the “Online Dating Gospel” and she’s been a contributing writer for publications including Thrillist, Elite Daily, and Eligible Magazine.